“Life changes in the instant. The ordinary instant.” ~ Joan Didion

Sometimes the reality of your life hits you in the most ordinary places.

for me, it happened in a walmart aisle.

I was stopping in to grab cat food but along the way I found myself in front of all these rows of cat toys just staring and thinking about how at christmas this year, my beloved cat Styles won’t be there with us to open gifts in his silly little way. It took all of me to shake off the tears welling up as the reality set in further.

he is gone.

I walked like a zombie through the aisles considering the year that was.

the people I lost, the friendships that shifted, the hard conversations I never wanted to have, the changes in work, the changes in me, the moves, the mistakes, the moments I surprised myself, the things I let go of, the things I fought for, the quiet ways I kept going even when I felt stretched thin.

a year that rearranged so much inside me.

And in that moment, I realized how much uncertainty I am still holding as I close out this year.

the year of the snake, boy did she strip me down bare

and yet, still somehow offered so much beauty, love, expansion and momentum too.

This is the duality I keep circling back to. How the tender, harder emotions will try to take the driver’s seat and convince us the story is only heavy or hard or unknown. Then something small or unexpected reminds you that it is not that simple.

we only get one life. and none of us are exempt from change.

not at any age. not in any season.

unexpected pivots, goodbyes, new pathways, beginnings, endings.

all signs

that we are alive.

Grief and joy are not opposites. They coexist in the same breath.

two of my girlfriends and I were talking about this the other night while painting rocks together:

“That the beauty of life isn’t only present when things are going well—when joy, pleasure, and abundance feel easeful. It’s also here when everything feels like it’s falling apart or shifting beneath us. Those waves aren’t going anywhere. Uncertainty is part of the journey. So the work isn’t to shut down every time it gets hard, but to stay open to what’s available in the depths/shadows too.”

We agreed that both ends of the spectrum can be powerful catalysts for awareness, bravery, clarity, and action. (but damn, what a practice!)

There’s something astonishing about being able to access gratitude in the midst of it all—to recognize what each season is offering and to find ways to appreciate the whole experience.

Some days I can reframe and see this easily. Other days it all feels very close to the surface.

as we close out the last month of the year I’ve been reflecting a lot on the nuance of it all and how much can shift in a single year.

Because alongside the grief and exhaustion there was also this:

In the last 6 months…

• I self-published my first book and just passed 150 sales.

• I worked with 7 incredible clients.

• I hosted sold out events in June & November.

• I sold my book at multiple events including a retreat.

• I was featured on 3 podcasts.

• I rebuilt and realigned my business and my creative practice from the inside out.

• I’ve been creating for fun again. (currently playing with ink calligraphy)

• I dyed my hair deep red just because it felt right.

• I reconnected with and found aligned friends and community.

• I joined a breathwork and yoga women’s circle.

• my bird feeder game went way up (enjoying the cute birdies daily)

• I got a new kitten.
  

So when I step back and take a minute to take stock…

The story of this year wasn’t just loss or uncertainty.
It was also accessing a deep well of inner strength, courage, creativity, joy and reconnection.
It was choosing myself again and again even when things were hard behind the scenes.
It was leaning into friends and community.
It was taking action and believing in possibility.

In the in between, you haven’t lost the path. you’re simply learning to walk it differently.

And at my event last month, I saw that reflected back to me.

A room full of people facing their own versions of uncertainty and change. Grief. Career shifts. Identity questions. Breakups. New dreams forming. One person holding hope in one hand and fear in the other. Another realizing they were finally ready to choose themselves. It was such an intimate and honest room. Seeing the texture of metamorphosis and how it visits everyone in different ways.

What struck me was that although everyone was in a different chapter, the emotional climate was the same.

That tender middle space after life has rearranged you but before anything new has tangibly taken shape.

The in between.

And if you had a year that rearranged you too, here’s what I want to offer:

You’re not supposed to know what comes next.
You’re not supposed to rush your way out of the uncertainty.
You’re not supposed to “bounce back.”

When life rearranges you, it asks for a different kind of attention and presence.

It asks you to honor what ended.
To acknowledge what changed you.
To let yourself feel the truth of it without turning it into a problem to solve.

It asks you to trust the parts of you that are growing quietly inside and under the surface, even if no one else can see it yet.

let’s go deeper

I talked about this recently on Julianna Leamen’s podcast where we explored what it really means to move through change from the inside out and why most of us aren’t struggling with change itself but with integration. Letting ourselves actually feel what’s rearranging before slipping back into auto-pilot, numbing or rushing toward the next goal post.

If you’re also sitting in an in-between space right now, here are some questions I’ve been journaling on this week. They helped me find a little more chill and self trust inside the uncertainty

• What has been heavy and have I given myself even a moment to honor it

• What surprised me this year in the best way

• What tiny thing still brings me joy even on the harder days

• What part of me is asking to be seen or heard again

• What dream or creative pull keeps tapping me on the shoulder

• What gets in the way of moving toward it

• and what would one incredibly small next step look like

And for now I just want you to know this

If you’re standing in your own Walmart aisle moment wondering what’s next
you’re not lost, or alone, or behind
this is simply part of the journey
and you’re right where you need to be.

And I’d genuinely love to know

What part of your life feels like it’s shifting right now?
What are you letting go of as this year closes?
What are you calling in for 2026?

A month ago, I met Bob Mathers in the woods.

We were at a Retreat, surrounded by tall trees, cold air, and that kind of peace and collective honesty that only happens when the usual noise falls away (literally, there was no cell service in sight) with a group of people who led with vulnerability and truth - it was disarming and comforting on so many levels.

I was truly blown away by how much I needed it, and how special the entire experience was. My next post will be all about that Retreat but for right now, I want to talk to you about Bob.

Bob was the keynote speaker that weekend — and his talk cracked our entire group wide open in the best possible way.

One minute we were crying, the next we were laughing, and by the end we were all sitting there feeling seen, inspired, and deeply connected.

It felt less like a keynote and more like being reminded of how important life, creativity, curiosity and not wasting our precious time here on earth is.

I went into that retreat experience secretly holding and tending to a lot of grief inside myself, and his talk spoke right to that part of me. I went right up to him after and said how important it was - he said he clocked the tears and felt the connection too.

Later that night, Bob pulled out a guitar at the campfire and brought a circle of strangers together by leading us through a full Tragically Hip sing-along under the stars.

It was surreal, grounding — a “this is what community feels like” moment.

We didn’t speak much more at the retreat, but I gifted everyone a copy of my book - and he happened to grab one, and later asked me to be on his podcast to speak about it, neither of us expected for the conversation to be as deeply meaningful and fun as it was, but damn I am grateful the universe brought us together to have it.

And now I am so pleased to share it with you…

Listen To The Episode Here

We talked about the hard, human parts of reinvention:

• burnout

• career transitions

• identity shifts

• the fear of what comes next

• shedding old versions of ourselves

• navigating the messy middle between chapters

• rebuilding clarity and direction when nothing feels certain

So, if you’re in a “what now?” season of life or work, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are — with honesty, reflection, and the reminder that you’re not moving through it alone.

You can listen to the episode everywhere you can listen to your podcasts - and I know we would both so appreciate you letting us know what you think.

And if you aren’t already following Bob’s podcast and Substack, please do :)

Trust me

He’s someone worth listening to.

And someone I am grateful to now call a friend.

Just a reminder to all my local friends, I am hosting an in person event this Sunday in Conestogo, Ontario Canada - where we can come together inside community to celebrate and honour this exact thing - moving through big change and being in between worlds, lives, roles or careers. I’m so excited at the 20 people on guest list so far - it’s going to be a really special night and if this is something that is calling to you, I’d be delighted to see you there.

PLUS - our friend Bob will be there - so you can meet him in person!

Grab Your Ticket Here

You know those seasons where everything you’ve been calling in finally starts happening — and somehow, everything else starts unraveling too?

In this episode, I share what expansion and collapse look like in my own life right now — the exhilaration of growth, the heartbreak of loss, and what it actually takes to let your body catch up to change.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I should be happy right now… so why do I feel off?” — this one’s for you.

In this episode:
We explore what it means to hold both expansion and collapse — the beauty and the ache that come with change. I share what this season looks like for me: the exhilaration of growth, the heartbreak of loss, and how I’m learning to metabolize it all rather than rush through it.

Together we talk about:

• Why your body doesn’t know the difference between excitement and fear

• How both expansion and collapse activate the same physiological response

• The importance of slowing down to let your system catch up to what’s changing

• The rituals, creative practices, and micro-moments that help us move energy through rather than store it

Referenced in this episode:

• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron — a guide to recovering your creativity through practices like Morning Pages

• The Internet People Podcast — where I first heard the phrase “Get it down, don’t think it up,” and a guide for doing the 12 week program in a bare minimum kinda way - trust me - this is great and there is an episode for every section/week of The Artist’s Way if you want to go on that journey.

• The Rebirth Rituals — my debut poetry and ritual book for those in the midst of transformation; a tender companion for anyone navigating rebirth, honouring the in-between, doing shadow work, reclaiming their voice, and rediscovering pleasure.

Mentions & Resources:

• Morning Pages ritual (Julia Cameron)

• Creative expression as a healing practice — writing, movement, ritual, breath

• Navigating grief and ambiguous loss through creativity, daily walks and connection with nature

If this conversation resonates, and if you are in the Kitchener, Waterloo Ontario area - please join me in person for Honouring the In-Between — a live evening of poetry, intuitive ink art, and guided hypnosis to help you integrate and express whatever season you’re in with community.

📍 The Village 1883, Conestogo
🕯 Saturday, November 23 · 3–6 PM
💫 Early bird pricing ends tonight.

Get Your Tickets Here

What’s behind the portal door?

The Ritual Room: A living library and creative membership for those leading themselves through change — living and working with intention, and ready to reignite their inner fire.

At some point, every creative or leader outgrows the old ways — when striving, fixing, and performing stop creating the aliveness you’re after.

The Ritual Room was born in that space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming — a vaulted library of creative frameworks, rituals, and teachings designed to help you reclaim your energy, refine your focus, and lead yourself from integrity, creativity, and inner steadiness.

Unlock the Vault

Inside The Ritual Room, you’ll find a living library of programs and resources that have guided hundreds of my clients and community members through transformation—whether rebuilding life after burnout, redesigning work from a place of alignment, or rediscovering joy and creative flow in the everyday.

Each collection is drawn from years of lived experience and my background as an artist, entrepreneur, facilitator, and mindset coach—where neuroscience, ritual, pleasure, and creative process meet to create real, lasting change.

These aren’t quick fixes or productivity hacks.
They’re frameworks for living, leading, and creating with depth.

What This Work Helps You Do

• Rebuild your energy, focus, and creative rhythm after seasons of change, burnout, or transition

• Design structures and systems that expand your capacity and support your creativity instead of stifling it

• Strengthen self-trust and discernment so your decisions and direction feel cleaner, lighter, and aligned

• Develop rituals and habits that make consistency, follow-through, and momentum feel natural

• Learn to metabolize change — transforming endings and pivots into fertile ground for expansion, creation, and sustainable growth

What Lives Inside

Each program in The Ritual Room meets you at a different stage of growth:

🌕 Dip Your Life in Pleasure

A guided journey to redesign your life around what truly matters.
Reconnect with your values, energy, and creative rhythm — and learn to let pleasure and joy become the fuel for everything you build.

Explore This Program

🔥 Cycle Breakers Care Package

Rituals, tools, and guided practices to help you release old patterns, build boundaries, and reclaim your energy for what’s next.
When you’re ready to stop repeating stories that no longer fit, this work helps you create the spaciousness to begin again — on your terms.

Explore This Program

🌙 Tune In & Turn On

A 21-day ritual experience to reignite intuition, sensuality, and creative flow from a deeply grounded place.
Learn to prioritize yourself, rebuild nourishing habits, and feel your confidence and energy expand as you come home to your natural rhythm.

Explore This Program

How It Works

Your membership gives you full access to an evolving vault of programs, live recordings, and seasonal workshops — each designed to move you from insight to integration.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Guided audio rituals and embodiment practices to ground your energy and reconnect with your body’s wisdom

• EFT tapping, hypnosis, and meditation sessions for nervous system regulation and mindset reprogramming

• Curated journal prompts and creative exercises to spark reflection and realignment

• Step-by-step frameworks and habit-forming tools to support consistency and sustainable change

• Community-based support and accountability to help you stay connected, curious, and in motion

Every resource in The Ritual Room was created from years of coaching, creativity, and lived experience — a library built for those ready to grow, create, and lead themselves differently.

Join The Ritual Room

(Membership includes full access to all programs, live recordings, and future workshops.)

For those of you who’ve been following my journey, you might know this past year has been one of immense change — endings, beginnings, and everything in between. I’ve been learning, over and over, what it means to honour the in-between — the space after the shift, but before what comes next.

A while back, I wrote about honouring the season you are in.

Just as I released my debut book about transformation, rebirth, and starting over… my personal life — so carefully built with love and intention — began to unravel.

It felt like a thread being tugged, then ripped out, rupturing everything it was woven into. Relationship ruptures, loss, repair. Losing my cat to the wilderness. Leaving a home I was only just settling into. Saying goodbye to my chickens, my daily routines, my sense of stability.

I’m not ready to share it all, but I will say this: the words in my book became a mirror for my life.

“Rebirth doesn’t come when you are ready. It comes when the life you’ve built begins to unravel, when what once felt safe now feels too tight, when there is no room left to stretch or grow.”

Death came for me and the life I had built.
It asked me to pay attention. To surrender what felt safe but was no longer true.

And here’s what I’ve learned in the rubble:
Sometimes loss is the most faithful guide back to what matters.
Safety isn’t the same as aliveness.
You can break apart and still hold yourself with love.

Rebirth doesn’t wait for readiness — it drags you forward, kicking and clinging, until you realize you’re strong enough to meet it.

And then… slowly, life started to move again.

On the other side of the rupture, my professional world began to bloom in ways that felt new and deeply aligned.
My book, The Rebirth Rituals, has been finding its people — and continues to open doors I once only dreamed of. I’ve been invited onto major podcasts to talk about transformation, creativity, and healing. I spent a week at an incredible retreat for entrepreneurs and visionaries, where I met new friends and kindred spirits who reminded me of what’s possible.

After a year that stripped me down to my bones, I can feel the next version of my work — and my life — taking root.
This next chapter feels steadier. Stronger.
Built from integrity and alignment, not performance or expectation.

And with it, comes something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes...

The Rebirth Rituals: Honouring the In-Between

A 3-hour live event to help you integrate the changes you’ve been moving through, spark inspiration for what comes next, and reconnect with your next season from a grounded, confident, creative place.

You can expect:
– Curated poetry readings from The Rebirth Rituals
– Guided journaling and community reflection
– An intuitive ink art session
– Guided hypnosis for release, integration, and renewal

It’s a celebration of change — and a chance to catch your breath in the middle of it all.

📍Sunday, November 23 | 3–6 PM EST | The Village 1883, Conestogo, ON
Early Bird Tickets (October only): $45
Bring a Friend Bundle: $75
✨ Add-ons available: signed copies of The Rebirth Rituals and 3-month access to The Ritual Room — my private online library of guided rituals, hypnosis, and community programs.

Get Your Tickets Here

We need time and space to metabolize our changes.
Community, art, expression, bone-deep breathing, and rest — to move it all through us.

This is the cocoon.
The in-between.
The place we allow ourselves to dissolve so we can build the bridge to what’s next.

When we don’t make space for this part of the process, we repeat patterns.
We ruminate.
We burn out.

But when we do — when we allow ourselves to soften and be witnessed in the messy middle — we find our way back to ourselves.

I’ve been dreaming of bringing this experience to life for a long time.
It feels like all of my chapters — the creative, the coach, the poet, the woman rebirthing her own life — finally meeting.

If you know someone who’s navigating change, shedding an old chapter, or standing on the edge of something new — please pass this along.

I can’t wait to gather with you.
Let’s move through the middle together.

With love,
Lacey

Hi friends —

I’ve been cracked open lately too — by change, by growth and by just how much can shift in a short time.

It’s been a few weeks since The Rebirth Rituals came out, and wow… what a ride it’s been.

Since launch day, so much life has unfolded:

• 🐾 Life at the homestead has been full — chickens in the grass, bread on the counter, poetry on my tongue… and yes, even doggy daycare. If you’re curious about that part of my world, I’ve been sharing snippets over here.

• 📣 I started working with a new high-profile social media client (and the kicker? their media team in California found me through this Substack! eee!)

• 💌 And the conversations this book has opened — in DMs, voice notes, long texts and tender moments — have cracked me open all over again. They’ve been some of the most meaningful moments of my creative life (thank you)!

One of the biggest lessons in all of this?

Showing up matters.
Even when it’s awkward.
Even when it’s cringey.
Even when it feels like you’re being repetitive or speaking into the void.

The more I share, the more the right people show up.

And The Rebirth Rituals is proof of that.

✨ If you’ve read the book, I’d so love your feedback.
→ You can leave a quick Amazon review here
→ Or hit reply and share what landed most
→ Or tag me online with your favorite line or moment

Let’s Gather!

And because so many of you have been sharing your own “rebirths” with me…

I’m hosting a creative ritual gathering — and I want you there.

This will be a live, online space to reflect on your own season of rebirth, connect with others moving through change, and express what’s ready to move through you — through writing, ritual and creative expression.

I'll be reading from The Rebirth Rituals, guiding a short practice, and holding space for whatever’s unfolding in your world right now.

Before I lock it in, I’d love your input:

More details to come soon — but for now, just know it’ll be cozy, creative, and soulful. I’d love to have you there.

Also: If you’re local to KW (Kitchener- Waterloo, Ontario), I’ll be speaking at an intimate dinner patio event at Public Kitchen on June 20th — I’d love to see you there. (More details soon.)

xo
Lacey

I can hardly believe I am sharing these words with you.

THE BOOK IS LIVE!

I'm thrilled to share that The Rebirth Rituals is now available. This book is a culmination of deep introspection, healing, and creative expression—a companion for those navigating transformation and seeking to reclaim their authentic selves.

Your support has been instrumental in bringing this project to life. Whether through encouragement, feedback, or simply being part of this community, you've played a role in this journey, and I'm deeply grateful.

Follow along on social media ⤵️

Inside the book, you'll find:

• Poetry that delves into themes of loss, healing, and the duality of self-love and expression.

• Rituals designed to foster presence, pleasure, creativity and personal reclamation

• A soft and honest place to land during seasons of deep change.

If this resonates with you or someone you know, I invite you to explore The Rebirth Rituals. Your support in sharing this work can help it reach those who may find solace and inspiration within its pages.

Buy Your Copy Here

For anyone that supports me in ordering this book, or sharing with the people in your life who you think would love it, please let me know what you think with reviews, they will help me to expand the reach and impact I am dreaming of creating and I am genuinely so excited to hear your feedback and how you use it in your world

And of course, you know I curated a Rebirth Rituals Playlist for you to walk through this immersive experience with all your senses activated, save it for when you are ready to dive into those rituals inside.

Thank you for being part of this journey.

love you

with gratitude,
Lacey

There’s something sacred about keeping a dream close to your chest.
Protecting it while it grows limbs and a heartbeat.
Whispering its name before anyone else hears it.

For the past year, I’ve been doing exactly that.

This book started in journals, Notes app scribbles, poetry, musings, confessions, drawings, and dreams.
Lines written on the beach. In the bathtub. Late at night when I couldn’t sleep.
Words that walked me through what I was moving through.

Phrases written between endings and beginnings.
While healing.
While falling in love.
While reclaiming myself.

Rituals I used to come back to my body —
when I wasn’t sure who I was becoming.
Truths too raw to say aloud,
so I wrote them instead.

At first, I didn’t know it was a book.
I just knew I had to write.

Writing has always been a steady, quiet companion.
Since I was a little girl —
with my fuzzy pink lock-and-key diary,
and later, my hardcover moody Harry Potter journal.
I’ve always written the things I didn’t know how to speak.

But now,
it’s ready.

And I want to share it with you.

Introducing…

The Rebirth Rituals

The name came before I knew what it would become.
I kept hearing it —
rebirth... alchemy... it hurts being born... pleasure... ritual... reclamation... rebirth.

I followed the frequency.
Not with a plan — but with devotion.

This isn’t a collection of polished insights.
It’s not a self-help manual.
It’s not a guide on how to be better.

It’s a felt record
of what it takes to rewrite your life from the inside out.

The ache of unlearning.
The grief of shedding what no longer fits.
The quiet ecstasy of building something that does.

It’s about choosing differently.
Trusting your timing.
And returning to yourself — again, and again, and again.

Why I Had to Write This

I wrote this in the wake of personal earthquakes —
in the middle of shadow work, shedding, and soft, slow becoming.

I closed down a business.
Moved out of the city where I built my identity.
Let go of friendships that no longer aligned.
Fell in love.
Started over — in a slower rhythm, with a deeper kind of truth.

It wasn’t just about what was falling apart.
It was also about what was finally aligning.

This book holds what surfaced as I let go:
People-pleasing.
Overachieving.
Grief.
Anger.
Desire.
Power.
Love.
Longing.
Stillness.
Clarity.
Boundaries.
Creative fire.
And the kind of pleasure that comes from no longer abandoning yourself.

I wrote it to remember.
To trace the path back through all the versions of me I released.
To name the moments I nearly disappeared — and didn’t.

And in that remembering,
something new rooted.
Something honest.
Something alive.

A First Taste

Here’s a couple pieces from the collection (and me practicing reading them to the camera weeks ago) 🥰

There are over 100 pieces in The Rebirth Rituals —
poems, thresholds, ritual invitations.
Each one a kind of reckoning.
Each one an offering.

For those who are in it.
Who feel the shift in their bones.
Who are done pretending things still fit.
Who want to create something more honest. More free. More real.

When You Can Hold It

The Rebirth Rituals will be available to purchase on May 22.

You’ll be able to order the physical book — intentionally designed to feel like a keepsake, companion, and guide through your seasons of change.

Next week, I’ll open up preorders, share more about what’s inside,
and walk you through the stories that shaped this body of work.

But first...

Cover Reveal + Your Thoughts

You’ve been walking with me through this evolution.
And I want to show you what the book looks like before anyone else sees it.

This is the first reveal of the cover.
The palette. The energy. The mood.

What do you think?

I am still deciding between a few colour options (soft beige, lavender or rose), beige is leading the charge … but we are nearly there!

Thank you to everyone who has been so supportive, curious and excited about bringing this to life and celebrating with me. It means the world, especially as I prepare to share some of my most vulnerable work to date.

Thank you for being here.
For reading.
For witnessing.
For becoming — alongside me.

This book is mine, yes.
But I wrote it for us.

For every season of not-knowing.
For the stretch between who we’ve been…
and who we dare to become.

More soon.

With love,
Lacey

This week, I accidentally posted a reel of myself talking about the in-between season of May — and didn’t realize until too late that speeding it up turned my voice into a full-blown chipmunk.

I cringed. I considered deleting it. I almost didn’t post it at all.
But something in me said: leave it.

And honestly? I’m glad I did.

Because there’s something so perfect about that chipmunk voice carrying a message about embracing messiness, the creative in- between of May, and practicing the rituals that get us out of our heads and back into expression.

It was a real-time reminder of the thing I’m unlearning over and over again:
✨ Progress over perfection.
✨ Presence over polish.
✨ Expression over performance.

It’s not a lack of ideas. It’s a crisis of overthinking.

We are not experiencing a shortage of ideas, or the desire for expression,
or the longing to be seen, or to create.

What we’re experiencing is a crisis of overthinking.

We hoard our thoughts like they’ll vanish if we don’t grip them tight.
We plan, overanalyze, and wait—for the perfect tone, the perfect timing, the right energy, the right moment.

How to word the new offer you’ve been sitting on.
How to say the honest thing in your next post.
How to tell your partner what’s been on your heart.
How to raise your rates without apologizing.
How to say yes before you’ve figured it all out.
How to start again, in public, without the polished story.

But in the meantime?
We’re not creating.
We’re thinking about creating.

We’re trying to think things up,
when what we really need…
is to get something down.

This is a phrase I heard on the podcast Internet People:
Get it down. Don’t think it up.

It landed like a gut-punch and a warm hand on my shoulder at the same time.

Because it’s not about hustling. It’s not about pushing through.
It’s about unhooking from the idea that your expression needs to be planned, polished, or profound before it’s allowed to exist.

It’s about making space for all the noise—
The inner critic.
The bills.
The thing they said that still lingers.
The quiet ache of wanting to be witnessed.

Get it down.
In a notebook.
In a voice note.
In a feral scream in the woods.

Just get it out of you.

What if you let it be ugly?

Unfinished.
Too much.
Not enough.

What if you lowered the bar—not because you don’t care,
but because you’re done abandoning the part of you
that just wants to be seen?

This season, I’m practicing bare minimum magic—progress over perfection, curiosity over output.

Morning pages (even if it’s just a single paragraph).
Pressing record and sharing before my inner critic gets a say.
Voice notes. Foraging. Wandering.
Yelling/singing in the forest.
Watercolour calligraphy.
Sitting in the sun, writing one true line.

It’s not sexy.
It’s not optimized.
But it’s honest.

And that honesty?
That’s what builds momentum.

Here’s what I know:

You don’t need another productivity hack.
You need to remember how it feels to express without editing yourself in real time.

You don’t have to go viral.
You don’t have to sound wise.
You don’t even have to finish the thing.

You just have to let it move.

Even if it sounds like a chipmunk.

Journal Prompt:

Where are you waiting for things to be perfect before you begin?

What would it look like to start before you’re ready?

🔥 Ready to move through the fog?

If you’re standing at the edge of something — a project, a pivot, or a version of yourself you can feel but haven’t fully claimed — I offer Creative Rebirth Sessions and 1:1 coaching to help you get unstuck and back into motion.

✨ Untangle the noise
✨ Reconnect to your vision
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May is the in-between.

After a month of deep grief and quietly tending, I am finally feeling the shift in energy and I am ready to move forward with intention.

After polling my beautiful community and learning that we are all quietly feeling this shift inside and craving mini-rituals to both ground, hold and expand us — I came up with a plan. Monthly themes, rituals and gathering to connect in shared momentum and support.

Each month, I’ll share a set of simple, sensual rituals to help you reconnect with the season and with yourself—your identity, your creativity, your desires you can try—to reconnect with your inner world, mark transition points, and honor where you’re at.

May is the perfect place to begin, because May is all about the in-between.

It’s not quite the shell of winter. And not yet the full bloom of summer.

This also just so happens to be the perfect month to release the book I’ve been working on. Next week, I’ll be revealing more details including the book name and cover and a couple pieces. eeekkk!

These rituals are here to help you release what you’ve outgrown, reconnect with your creativity, and make space for what's quietly taking root beneath the surface. Each one builds on the last, and by the end of the month, you’ll have a spring altar that reflects the season you’re moving through.

Rituals for May:

Try Something New + Creative

Try something you’ve never done before, or haven’t done in years. Bonus points if it connects you to your hands, your senses, or something you'll add to your altar later this month.

Here's what I did:

• I made candles and used them later in my rituals

• I stained parchment paper using tea and coffee (very easy and cute)

• I practiced calligraphy, using it to write a letter for release and to my future self

• I sealed that letter using the candles I made and a custom wax seal

Let this be about process, not perfection. This is about taking steps to meet yourself in the act of creation, just for you.

Spring Foraging + Flower Pressing

Take a notebook and go outside. Wander slowly. Let your senses guide you.

Notice what you see, hear, smell, feel.

Forage for a few small pieces of spring: fallen leaves, tiny blossoms, anything that's safe to collect. Press them into your notebook to dry for the month—you'll use them in an art ritual next month.

This is a ritual of remembering. Let it bring you back into presence.

Ritual for Release

Write down everything you're ready to let go of—old stories, sticky beliefs, things you're done carrying.

Burn it safely. I used one of the candles I made for this part, which felt really special.

I kept the ashes for the next ritual.

Plant a Seed of Intention

This one is layered.

I grabbed a pot and added fresh soil. Then I mixed in the ashes from my fire ritual, as a way to fertilize what comes next. I wrote a letter to myself from my future self, speaking from the version of me who is already living the desires & growth I’m calling in. I rolled it up, buried it in the center of the pot, and planted sunflower seeds in a circle around it.

Then I added a few things that felt symbolic to me:

• money, crystals, feathers

Finally, I watered it with the last of the moon water I charged during an Aries new moon—back when I started writing my book. That felt like a full circle moment. Creation now preparing to grow into the light.

p.s. there is a powerful full moon coming on may 12th, a great time to release & manifest. Charge up your moon water, or simply do one of your rituals that night.

Build a Spring Altar

Gather everything you’ve created or collected this month:

• pressed flowers

• your planted seed pot

• your sealed letter or future self letter

• any crystals, natural elements, or symbolic pieces from your rituals

I placed mine on my desk mantle where I write and get ready in the morning. It’s an evolving space now—one I see every day while I create and prepare for what’s coming.

Your altar doesn’t have to be fancy. Just let it be a reflection of what you're growing into. Let it remind you daily that your rituals matter. Let it be an intentional way you can move and pour into you this month. Let it hold your visions & becoming.

If you try any of these rituals this month, tag me or message me. I’d love to witness what you’re creating, releasing, or growing. You’ll see me sharing each of these as the days unfold.

More soon.

With you in the in-between, Lacey

The aftermath of saying goodbye to a loved one.
Spring that flip-flops with winter.
A beautiful 35th birthday.
Nurturing the relationships that feed me in this season.
A full-on breakdown about maybe, possibly, one day wanting children — and realizing it may or may not happen.

I’m sinking into some semblance of surrender, love, and acceptance that feels older, wiser, more tender.

A different kind of softness — earned softness.

Having enough chapters behind me to recognize patterns.
To witness milestones.
To know that everything — every season, every identity, every breakthrough and breakdown — is just that.
Temporary.

And that is strangely liberating.

This time last year, I was standing on the edge of a cliff I didn’t even know was there:
leaving the city I called home for over a decade,
shutting down a business I had built with everything I had,
and leaping headfirst into a new life with a new pace,
a new love,
and a new rhythm I’d never given myself permission to try before.

It has quite literally been the best year of my life.
And also, the one with the most unexpected grief.

I’ve felt the discomfort and the thrill of growth in equal measure.

I know I’m onto something — I can feel it in my body, in my breath, in the quiet moments when I map out this new dream that feels so right.

But in the other hand, I hold grief:

• Loss of friendships due to dishonesty and value misalignment

• The simplicity of a past chapter that no longer fits

• Watching my partner grieve the death of his father, and how that grief reshapes love

• My own estrangement from narcissistic parents and the kind of grief that doesn’t come with funerals

• Budget constraints, creative heartbreaks, false starts

• Noticing my people-pleasing habits creep in when I feel uncertain or scared

• The ache of unexpected friendship breakups — hearing what was said about me, not to me — and learning to be okay being the “villain” in someone else’s story.

And yet—
I look around and I see tiny green shoots breaking through.

New friendships that feel rooted and reciprocal.
Slow weekends that leave space for rest and creativity.
Ideas I’ve carried for years — a book, a body of work, ritual kits, a rhythm of ritual, cycles of creation — that feel intuitive, not forced, finally taking form.
Planting microgreens in the kitchen.
Holding hands in bed, watching our favorite show.
Letting people see me, as I really am.
Trusting that’s enough.

This season has been about reflecting, grieving, creating, and celebrating — all at once.
I’m tilling the soil.
Planting seeds.
And practicing the radical act of not rushing any of it.

Because when you’ve been conditioned to measure your worth in output, the real revolution is rest.
The real courage is giving yourself time — and trusting that something special and worthy of the wait is stirring beneath.

🌱 A small invitation, if you're here with me:

What season are you in right now?

Are you shedding? Planting? Resting? Growing? Grieving?

This week, I invite you to notice where you are in your own cycle — not where you wish you were, or where you think you should be — but where you actually are.

✨ Need support tuning in?

I’ve added a gentle guided audio — to help you get clear on what season you’re in and how to meet yourself there with care.

Put in your earbuds, light a candle, find a quiet & cozy spot. This practice always brings me back to myself when I need it most.

PS: For paid Ritual Room subscribers — I’ll soon be sharing a deeper dive into the Creation Cycle framework, along with a fresh set of rituals and journal prompts to help you build momentum in your creative projects and move in deeper alignment with the season you're in.

I’m also planning a live gathering to support you with reflection, gentle accountability, and community connection.
More details coming soon — I can’t wait to share this next layer with you.

With love,
Lace

This past weekend, we gathered around my love’s father at a long-term hospice care home. With exhaustion behind each heartbreaking breath, he shared with us that he would be ending his fast-progressing and painful battle with ALS, choosing the MAID service before it takes his ability to breathe and swallow.

The room fell silent.

The reality of how quickly life can change hit us all, a sudden shift that leaves its mark and slices through your heart.

The heartbreak of knowing there's so much life ahead of him, yet no choice to stay, to fight, or to enjoy the simplest, most meaningful pleasures. No more being at home with his love and pets. No more riding his motorcycle. No more witnessing the young people in the room grow up. No more making it to 61.

Some moments in life leave us no choice but to surrender—to let it rock us completely.

“I’m going to miss you,” a tear slipping down his face.
“I’m going to miss you. We love you. I love you. I’m sorry.”
“Nothing to be sorry about. I love you. Forever. Thank you.”

As I held Sommer and my partner held Myla, tears flowing, silently acknowledging the sorrow, we all felt it.

We had a sense this day might come, but no one imagined it would come so fast. From him helping drive the Uhaul to our new home this spring, visiting us this summer, cracking jokes and helping me fish my phone out of the rocks at the beach, to hearing of his back injury in November, to seeing him unable to walk in December, to the ALS diagnosis in January—and now, the end only weeks away.

It humbles you.

Gut-punch after gut-punch, reminding us how precious life is. How precious being alive is. How precious family, community, friends, and those simple daily pleasures truly are.

Yesterday, while grilling sandwiches for breakfast, I turned to my partner.
“I’m so sad for all the moments your Dad won’t be here for,” I said. “I was hoping he’d walk with me when we get married one day.”

My partner replied, “I’ve been thinking about that too. I can’t go there yet, or I won’t be able to function.” We agreed to schedule a time to process the grief ahead, but for now, we simply held each other.

Amid the heartbreak, we’ve also witnessed silver linings—blessings and important reminders about what truly matters. We’ve been given the gift of foresight, knowing how much time we have left to say everything that needs to be said.

We’ve learned how to support one another through devastating, inevitable life moments—losing a parent, big injuries, supporting each other and the kids through the passage of life and death. We’ve breathed deeper, appreciating each breath we can take. We’ve savored each bite of food, each moment of movement. We’ve expressed our gratitude and held each other tighter.

Watched the wind blow, observed the snow melt, and witnessed the birds return.

There are gifts all around us, even now.

Rituals and small joys that have been holding me lately:

• Tending to our newborn chicks, currently in a nursery brooder in the corner of our room. (Soft, cute chick cuddles & ASMR—has been so comforting)

• Morning hikes through three feet of snow to tend to our chickens.

• Catching up with creative friends and collaborating with a designer on my book’s cover art.

• Starting a fire, tending to our wood stove, collecting firewood, and stoking the fire to heat the house.

• Hot long baths with the galaxy projector light on.

• Watching the new season of White Lotus on Sunday evenings.

• Video games with the family (Mario Kart, Donkey Kong, and Stray).

• Exploring a cute tavern nearby called Heart’s for a tapas lunch with friends (we haven’t been out much lately, except for trips to the hospital).

• Participating in an astrology ritual night for the Leo New Moon hosted by .

• Signed up for ’s Venus Rx masterclass for March, which centers around the themes of my upcoming book—feeling like a perfect way to align with the expansive energy I desire for this spring.

Some questions I’ve been pondering:

• What if I had two weeks left to live? What would I stop focusing on and prioritize instead? Is there anything I need to express or do now?

• How can I reframe chores as movement and enjoyment? How can I embrace sticky emotions, dance, cry, laugh, and let my body lead me where it needs to go?

• How can I give myself permission to be flexible and make changes when things shift that impact my plans? Life happens—let it. Edit as you go. Literally.

• Be sad when you feel sad, be joyful when you feel joy—don’t hide any of it. Embrace it all and use it to fuel your creativity.

Update on Dip Your Life in Pleasure (DYLIP):

I’ve received so much love and support for the first two modules of Dip Your Life in Pleasure—thank you for being with me on this journey. Due to the recent shifts in family life, I’ve had to adjust the release schedule for the remaining modules.

The next modules, focusing on the pleasure frequency, creative flow, self-pleasure, abundance, and working differently, will be released in March. I truly appreciate your patience and understanding as I navigate this tender time. If you’re already signed up, know that the next pieces are coming your way soon.

In the meantime, feel free to explore the first two modules that are available instantly when you join The Ritual Room.

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As I sit with this heartache, I am reminded of the importance of honoring our own fleeting moments. Life, with all its turns, its trials, and its triumphs, is the most precious thing we have. I’ve learned that no matter how difficult it gets, there is still power in breathing deeply, savoring what’s around us, and leaning into the rituals that sustain us through it all.

Thank you for sharing this space with me. I’m here, breathing deeply, savoring every moment, and feeling it all. And if you’re walking a similar journey of transformation, know that you’re not alone.

Let’s breathe, feel, and create—together

To those who’ve joined The Ritual Room, I see you. You’re already part of something truly transformative. Thank you for taking this journey with me.

For those of you just joining the community, welcome! You're here at the perfect time. In this video, I share my own personal journey of shutting down a business, moving from a city I spent 16 years building my career in, stepping into a new relationship and blended family—all while navigating the underworld of transformation. Creative expression, writing my book, and building rituals were my lifeline.

I’m sharing this because I want you to know: I’ve been where you are. And I’m here to help you move through it too.

With 10+ years of experience, I’ve distilled everything I’ve learned into The Ritual Room—a space for deep, meaningful transformation. As a paid member, you unlock exclusive access to programs, rituals, and guidance that will help you rewrite your own story. It’s not just about the content—it’s about community and support as you step into your own rebirth.

Now, speaking of rebirth... Dip Your Life in Pleasure is launching on Monday and running through February. This program is designed to guide you through deeper layers of joy, pleasure, and embodied expression. It’s all about aligning your life with what feels GOOD.

Here’s what you can expect as a member:

• Instant access to all my offerings, including exclusive rituals and programs

• A community that’s supportive, real, and ready to transform

• The tools you need to move through any season of your journey—whether you're shedding old skin or stepping into a new version of yourself

Ready to dive deeper?
I invite you to join The Ritual Room today and get in on the magic before Dip Your Life in Pleasure begins. This is your chance to step into something more.

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Homeplay Ritual: Pulse Check + Free Guided Hypnosis

Take a moment today to pause and reflect: Where are you on your journey? What are you ready to shed, and what’s calling for more attention, growth, and pleasure? Allow yourself the space to journal or meditate on these questions.

This transformative hypnosis is designed to help you release what no longer serves you, shedding the old skin that’s been holding you back. It’s time to create space for who you are becoming. Use this tool to ground yourself as you move into a new season, one of deep transformation.

Click below to access your free "Serpent Must Shed Guided Hypnosis" and start your journey of release and renewal.

But that’s not all—this hypnosis is just the beginning. Alongside it, inside Module 1 of Dip Your Life in Pleasure, I’m sharing a powerful training and workbook on lifestyle design and energy alignment. This isn’t just about making changes in your life; it’s about aligning every aspect of your world with your values and purpose. It's about ensuring that your life complements, rather than resists, the flow of change in your season of transformation.

This training and workbook are exclusively available to paid subscribers—and you’ll receive it on Monday. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to step into a new level of alignment, ease, and power.

Welcome to The Ritual Room

A few years ago, I found myself at a crossroads. Things weren’t working anymore, and I knew something had to change.

Maybe you’ve felt that too—when life feels like it’s in flux, but also, you sense on the other side of it, is an opportunity to rebuild, reconnect, and create something better.

For me, the real shifts and creating the change I wanted began with a return to small but meaningful rituals and channeling the experience of big pivots into creative expression.

You know that age old saying, “some doors need to close for new ones to open” - like, cool, yes, we know this - but the literal experience of doing that is not so simple. Shifting from what is, to what will be, can be a slow, excruciating process that leaves you questioning everything. We must enter the liminal space, surrender and let it all burn down so that we can have the space and breathing room to even see what comes next.

And it wasn’t just the rituals that supported me during a season of endings and beginnings.

As I navigated a world of uncertainty, creativity began knocking on my door again (first every so softly, then loudly). In the haze of burnout, I had forgotten how healing and reviving creativity and creative outlets are for me. Writing, painting, crafting, and bringing ideas to life helped me reclaim my sense of self. It reminded me that I still had the power to create, to shape something beautiful—even in the messiness of change. Creativity became my therapist, guardian and long lost lover. It gave me back the strength to rise and build, to move forward with intention and joy.

This space—The Ritual Room—was born from that very process. It's where I explored the alchemy of transition and reimagining my path forward.

Now, I’m inviting you to join me in this space—a place where we can be exactly who we are in this moment. A place where we bring our deepest selves and our beating hearts to a community that’s also moving through their own seasons of change and creation. Together, we’ll explore rituals, tools, and creative practices that keep us anchored and empowered as we navigate life’s constant evolution.

That’s the heart of The Ritual Room. It’s not just a place to reflect on your emotions or to create rituals—it’s a space to explore the real, messy, beautiful things you’re moving through. Whether you’re navigating your self-worth, designing a life that reflects who you truly are, reclaiming your pleasure, or finding your confidence in your career and relationships, this is a space to show up and do it all.

Here, we honor the ways we create—not as a task, but as a way to reconnect with ourselves and the world around us. This space isn’t just about growth—it’s about expressing, connecting, and finding home in the process.

If you’ve ever felt untethered, lost in the shifting rhythms of life, and longed for something to help ground you, this is your invitation. Let’s make room for the magic of becoming—and the joy of creating—together.

Each post in The Ritual Room is crafted to be more than just content—it’s a small, intentional ritual. A blend of storytelling, reflection, and creative practice designed to ground you, ignite your curiosity, and guide you deeper into your journey.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Stories that light the way for your transformation, reminding you that you’re not walking this journey alone.

• Reflections—poems, quotes, and insights that spark new ideas and stir what’s already awakening inside you.

• Journal Prompts to help you explore the layers of your inner world and uncover what’s ready to emerge.

• Rituals that anchor these lessons into your daily life, offering a gentle way to weave intention and creativity into your routine.

This isn’t just a space to reconnect with yourself—it’s a space to explore what you’re moving through and express it in a way that feels true to who you are. Whether you’re navigating change, adjusting to new roles, or seeking clarity and belonging, The Ritual Room offers a place to pause, reflect, and create from a place of deep alignment.

For those who crave more than surface-level content, this is your invitation to go deeper—to engage with meaningful practices, connect with a community of like-minded seekers, and root yourself in the beauty of becoming. Here, we don’t just grow; we create, express, and reclaim what it means to be fully alive.

What You’ll Find Here

For Free Subscribers:

• Occasional reflections, stories, and essays to inspire your journey.

• Glimpses into creative prompts, rituals, and practices to support healing and self-discovery.

For Paid Subscribers:

• Full Access to My Library: Explore hundreds of guided rituals, meditations, EFT tapping sessions, hypnosis, and embodiment activities to support your transformation journey.

• Exclusive Journal Prompts and Transformational Tools: Deepen your self-discovery with thoughtfully curated prompts and tools designed to guide your growth.

• Behind-the-Scenes Creative Insights: Get an inside look at my creative process, including the journey of launching my first book and developing new projects.

• Private Community Chat: Connect with like-minded individuals in a supportive space for deeper conversations, shared experiences, and mutual encouragement.

• Member-Only Gatherings: Invitations to live sessions and workshops where we can connect, reflect, and grow together.

• Early Access to New Projects: Be the first to explore my latest offerings, ideas, and transformative tools before they go public.

For me, this space is more than just a place to connect—it’s a way to contribute. It’s a space to create, to share stories, and to offer my work in a way that sustains me while adding value to those walking this path alongside me.

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Here’s My Invitation to You:

Step into The Ritual Room.

Bring all of you—the tender, the wild, the messy, and the radiant. Bring your questions, your dreams, and the parts of yourself you’re still coming to know.

Let’s gather in a space where rituals ground us, creativity frees us, and connection reminds us we’re never alone. Let’s honor the magic of becoming—together, one moment, one reflection, one act of creation at a time.

If you're ready to dive deeper and experience all the tools I offer, be sure to check out my services for 1:1 coaching, and visit my About page for a deeper dive into my journey and offerings.

I’m so grateful you’re here. Let’s begin.

With love,
Lacey

What Does It Mean to Dip Your Life In Pleasure?

DYLIP is about redesigning pleasure as something deeper and more holistic—a life that aligns with your values and desires while honoring the full spectrum of your experiences.

It’s not about chasing constant joy or ignoring life’s messiness. It is an invitation to embrace all parts of yourself and your life—the joy and the grief, the light and the shadow—and to see pleasure as a grounding force that guides you through it all.

Here, we redefine pleasure as something that roots you deeply, holds space for your wholeness, and supports you in living fully in alignment with your truest self.

What You Can Expect?

This self-guided experience is your invitation to reimagine your life and redesign it through a redefined lens of pleasure. Originally created as a live 5-week group program, DYLIP has evolved into a flexible journey you can embark on at your own pace. It combines intentional growth, self-reflection, and a supportive community, with live gatherings to provide space for questions, connection, and accountability.

Welcome Audio

Start your journey with a special welcome message to set the tone for this experience.

DYLIP is all about doing the internal work to live an intentional life dipped in pleasure. Throughout this journey, you will:

• Shed what no longer serves you.

• Gain clarity on your deepest desires and how to create a life aligned with them.

• Transform your quality of life, confidence, and mindset from the inside out.

Each of the five modules is crafted to provide you with:

• Training: Pre-recorded sessions to guide you through each phase of your pleasure-led transformation.

• Subconscious Activation: Tools and resources to unlock deep, lasting change.

• Embodiment Rituals: Practices to integrate pleasure and intention into your daily life.

The Magic of Community

Transformation doesn’t have to be a solo journey.

As a paid subscriber, you’ll have access to:

• Live Gatherings: Join our periodic live video sessions to share your progress, ask questions, and celebrate wins with a supportive group of like-minded souls.

• Exclusive Community Space: A private area to connect with fellow honeys, share reflections, and find inspiration as you Dip Your Life In Pleasure.

Our combined energy and shared intention amplify the results. This is a space where you will be seen, heard, and accepted—a community to celebrate your shifts and progress together.

The DYLIP Philosophy

This experience blends:

• Tuning In: Quieting the noise to tune into your intuition, thoughts, and patterns. This phase is about deep self-awareness and intentionality.

• Turning On: Activating your physiology and moving energy to experience more pleasure, creativity, self-trust, and confidence. This is where expansion begins.

Through a daily or weekly ritual practice (or your own chosen timeline), you’ll move through these two pillars to create a life rooted in mindfulness, self-care, and personal growth.

How the Journey Works on Substack

• Weekly Modules: Each week, a new post will guide you through a different theme with actionable steps and resources. Take your time—progress is yours to define.

• Live Gatherings: Paid subscribers are invited to join live gatherings for Q&A sessions, reflections, and mentorship support both from Lacey & your peers. Keep an eye on your inbox for updates.

• Community Space: Connect with others, share your ah-ha moments, and inspire one another in a supportive and intentional environment.

A Few Ground Rules

This is a safe space for personal growth, reflection, and community support. To ensure everyone feels seen and valued:

• Use the space to share learnings, reflections, and celebrations.

• Avoid trauma dumping or oversharing sensitive topics. If you’re unsure about something, feel free to reach out directly.

DYLIP is not group therapy but a container for mindfulness, self-care, and intentional living.

Unlock the Rest of Dip Your Life in Pleasure ⤵️🍯

The Ritual Room is a reader-supported space, and I’m so excited for you to dive deeper into Dip Your Life in Pleasure. By becoming a paid subscriber, you’ll gain access to the full program—along with exclusive tools, practices, and content designed to support you in living a pleasure-led, aligned life. You’ll be unlocking all the powerful resources that will guide you through each transformative phase of this journey. Let’s unlock the rest of this magic together.

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Dip Your Life In Pleasure Playlist

Set the mood for your journey with this curated playlist for your experience:

Start your journey by diving into Module 1 and engaging with the practices. Remember: transformation begins with intention, please share yours in the comments so we can all share this journey together and cheer one another on.

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These are intense, challenging times.

Where do we even begin?

The climate crisis, natural disasters, the ongoing devastation in Palestine, wildfires consuming the earth, systemic oppression, economic inequality, and a government growing more dangerous by the day (hello, fascism).

It’s a lot.

And when you tap into social media, witnessing the collective grief, sorrow, and outrage, it can stir up a whirlwind of emotions—wanting to take action, feeling both empowered and helpless all in the same breath.

I FEEL YOU. It’s easy to get caught in the relentless cycle of survival, where it feels like all you can do is work, fight, and hustle just to make it through the day. And yeah, doomscrolling can spiral us into deeper darkness. But here’s the truth:

In the face of these very real struggles, prioritizing your pleasure, joy, and creative expression is not just a nice-to-have—it’s essential. I know, it’s hard to imagine squeezing pleasure in when the world feels like it’s on fire. But trust me, it’s the very thing that will keep us from burning out.

Because here’s the thing—if we can’t laugh, cry, scream, and crack a joke, we won’t make it through. I’m still learning how to take care of myself and our community—and I haven’t always gotten it right—but I know one thing: we need this. We need the pleasure, the joy, and the connection to sustain us. We need each other to keep experiencing meaning, even in the face of everything that’s breaking our hearts.

This isn’t about escaping or pretending things are okay when they’re not. It’s about embracing the duality of our human experience. Yes, there’s grief, pain, and injustice—and at the same time, there’s a deep well of pleasure, joy, and rest that is our birthright.

To survive, heal, and create meaningful change, we need both. Because let’s be real—pleasure, joy, & rest isn’t — and should not feel like an inaccessible luxury; it’s the bedrock for activism, for creating lasting change, and for nurturing ourselves through the chaos. It’s the place from which we can rise, again and again, without losing ourselves in the process.

So let’s lean into this together?

In this module, we’ll practice integrating it all—welcoming and embodying the full spectrum of our human experience. As we redesign our lives and align with our core values, we’ll celebrate how embracing pleasure and care isn’t just a personal power—it’s a radical, necessary tool for surviving—and thriving—in these times.

Set the Vibe:
Begin by sinking into the energy of the 🎶 Dip Your Life in Pleasure playlist 🎶 This sensual, vibey soundtrack is here to hold you through the duality of it all—press play and let the music guide you into a deeper space of pleasure, movement and reflection.

What’s in Module 1: A Life That Drips

Here’s what’s waiting for you inside:

• 45-Minute Audio Training: Learn how to design a life that is rooted in values, pleasure, and joy while embracing the realities of our world. This training will guide you through aligning your daily life with your highest vision and most authentic desires.

• 30-Minute Guided Hypnosis: The Serpent Must Shed: This transformative hypnosis helps you release old patterns that no longer serve you, creating space for the transformation and joy you deserve.

• Gorgeously Designed Workbook: A powerful tool to reflect on the key areas of your life—Health, Work, Play, and Love. Use this workbook to gain clarity on what’s working and where more alignment is needed.

• Journal Prompts & Guided Activities: Thoughtful prompts to help you dive deeper into your values and desires for the most intentional redesign.

This module isn’t just about pleasure—it’s about reconnecting with who you are (right now), healing, and using your joy and expression as a foundation to thrive. Take your time with the material, feel into the practice, and remember: the more you root yourself in pleasure, the more powerful you become—for yourself and the world.

Listen & Learn

🎧 Audio Training 🎧
This audio lesson is your guide to designing a life rooted in pleasure and purpose. We’ll explore your values, core desires, and how to align your day-to-day with your bigger vision. Through this session, you’ll reflect on your current blueprint and learn how to make it truly yours.

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What if you could approach your life like a story in progress—one that’s constantly evolving, where every chapter contributes to the whole narrative?

Here’s the thing: we’ve all been carrying around old programming—patterns we picked up as kids, trying to make sense of the world and keep ourselves safe. Now, as grown-ups, it’s time to practice some discernment. But where do we even begin? We're not starting from scratch; we’re starting with everything we’ve learned—and unlearned—up to this point.

In this module, we’ll dive into how much of what we’ve been carrying has been quietly blocking us from fully experiencing pleasure. It’s about recognizing those blocks, stepping into the role of the author of our own story, and rewriting the narrative where we give ourselves permission to feel, enjoy, and be fully present with what’s good in our lives. This isn’t about erasing the past; it’s about embracing it and deciding what we want to carry forward.

So, let’s talk about how we can break through those old patterns, stop blocking ourselves, and start really experiencing life as it’s meant to be—rich, joyful, and full of pleasure.

What’s Inside This Module:

In this module, we’re stepping into your creative role as the author of your life. No more letting old programming or doubts keep you from writing the story you truly want to live. Here's what we’ll explore:

• Embrace the Draft: Life isn’t a perfect, finished product—and thank goodness for that. Each chapter, whether smooth sailing or a little rocky, is part of your evolving story. We’ll talk about how to stop blocking yourself from experiencing it all, and how to embrace the mess and the magic. Perfection is overrated; growth? That’s where the real power lies.

• Upgrading Your Mindset: Those limiting beliefs—like “good girl conditioning” or that sneaky imposter syndrome—have been playing a role in how you show up. But what if they didn’t need to? In this module, we’ll take a deep dive into those beliefs and begin the process of clearing out the clutter to make space for new, empowering thoughts that align with who you’re becoming.

• Owning Your Role as Author: You’ve got the pen. This is your life, your story, and you get to choose what happens next. We’re not here to perfect the past—we’re here to engage with it, learn from it, and rewrite the narrative so you can move through your next chapter with intention, curiosity, and a whole lot of confidence.

Set the Vibe:

Before diving into the material, set the tone with the Dip Your Life in Pleasure playlist. Let the music carry you into a space of flow, creativity, and empowerment. You can find it [here].

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🎧 Audio Training
This lesson is all about stepping into your creative role with open hands and a clear heart. You’ll explore how to align your beliefs and actions with your evolving story. Instead of focusing on “fixing” your past, we’ll look at how you can embrace all parts of you and your life—the present and future—with curiosity and intention, using the power of choice to guide you through each chapter.

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What if you could activate the most powerful, pleasure-filled version of yourself right now? This is your invitation to do just that.

Here we venture into what I call, “The Pleasure Frequency”

Welcome to Module 3, where we take the next step in the journey toward fully embodying the pleasure, power, and freedom that’s waiting for you.

Designing a life that drips with pleasure doesn’t stop at the idea stage—it requires feeling it, embodying it, and living it.

In this module, we’re activating the pleasure frequency by reconnecting to our creative flow, redefining self-pleasure, and stepping into sensual expression. It’s time to embrace the child-like joy, the playful energy, and the erotic embodiment that’s rightfully yours.

We’re not just talking about pleasure in theory. This is where we get real, raw, and intentional about how we experience pleasure in our bodies, minds, and lives. Creating, dating, and masturbating are the three pillars that will help you activate the pleasure frequency. It’s time to romance yourself, explore your desires, and embrace the sensual art of embodiment.

Key Themes

• Creating: This isn’t just about creating for the sake of product or a “side-hustle”—it’s about immersing yourself in creative flow. Whether it’s through writing, painting, cooking, or movement, you’ll reconnect with that joy you felt as a child when you were fully immersed in something that made time stand still. This is your invitation to find that flow again, to create for the pure pleasure of it.

• Dating (Yourself): It’s time to romance yourself. Dating isn’t just for lovers—it’s for you, too. You’ll explore how to date yourself with intention, creating experiences that make you feel cherished, beautiful, and alive. Going on solo adventures, creating romantic atmospheres at home, and exploring pleasure without expectations. This is about cultivating the art of self-love and connection.

• Masturbating: We’re shifting the conversation around self-pleasure. It’s not just about the physical act—it’s about honoring your body and desires. It’s about taking the time to explore pleasure, not just when the mood is “right,” but as a daily practice. Everything is foreplay, and it’s about discovering what gives you the most pleasure, building sensual energy, and celebrating your body.

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🎧 Audio Training: Tap Into the Pleasure Frequency 🎧
This training will guide you into activating your pleasure frequency at a somatic level. We’ll dive into the emotional vibrational chart, how your body’s energy shifts in response to

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We spend a significant portion of our lives working, but work doesn’t have to be a constant grind or a means to an end.

What if your work could empower you to live your most fulfilled, abundant, and pleasure-filled life?

In this module, we’re shifting the way we approach work, money, and abundance. It's about taking the shame, judgment, and old narratives out of the conversation and redefining how we think about success. We’ll dive into streams of abundance, exploring the 3 horizons model, and look at ways to bring work and money into alignment with our deeper desires. You don’t have to change everything about your work to experience harmony and fulfillment; you just need to approach it from a new, empowered perspective.

Key Themes

• Abundance, Success & Currencies: We often think of abundance solely in terms of money, but true abundance comes in many forms. Financial wealth is just one stream—other streams of abundance include freedom, meaningful relationships, creativity, and time. In this module, we’ll explore the various forms of abundance that matter to you and how to build your wealth with a new mindset that empowers you to claim it all. Success doesn’t need to be measured by society’s standards of status or material achievement; we’ll redefine what success really looks like in your life.

• The 3 Horizons Model: This model helps us think about how we approach work and wealth at different stages in life, moving from a place of immediate survival to long-term fulfillment. By integrating this model into your understanding of work and money, we’ll explore how to create sustainable, aligned success without falling into burnout or overwhelm. It’s about striking a balance between meeting your present needs, honoring your current goals, and creating space for your future abundance.

• Shifting Your Money Mindset: It’s time to dissolve the judgment and shame around money. Money is just a tool—it’s not good or bad. It’s not something you need to feel guilty about wanting or earning. In this module, we’ll help you transform your money mindset, breaking down old barriers and opening new pathways to wealth and fulfillment. Through understanding your streams of abundance and creating alignment in your financial life, you can remove the limiting beliefs that have kept you from accessing the abundance that’s already available to you.

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🎧 Audio Training: Releasing the Shame Around Money 🎧
This training is designed to help you shift your mindset and approach to work and money. We’ll dive into the streams of abundance, explore the 3 horizons model, and offer tools to help you break free from the old, judgment-laden ideas about money that no longer serve you. It’s time to align your work with your desires and embody a new approach to wealth and abundance.

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If you’re here, it’s likely because you’ve been moving through some profound personal and generational healing. Whether you’ve been at this work for years or are just stepping into a new chapter of showing up as your true self, this journey is nothing short of transformational. It’s liberating, yes, but it’s also heavy. There’s grief, sadness, and emotional burnout that comes with making new choices, setting firm boundaries, and learning to treat yourself the way you’ve always deserved.

I know how heavy this work can feel—I’ve been there. Growing up, I had relationships with a father who was often absent and emotionally distant, and a mother who leaned on me in ways no child should have to navigate. At the time, I didn’t realize that what I considered “normal” was actually shaping patterns that didn’t serve me. Stepping into healing wasn’t easy. It meant looking closely at those dynamics and understanding how they influenced the way I moved through the world. There were times when it felt overwhelming, like I was untangling knots that had been there for generations.

But here’s what I want you to know: those knots can be untangled, and you are not alone in doing this work. Healing is messy, and it’s rarely linear, but it’s also incredibly freeing. You’ll start to notice the space you create for yourself—the clarity, the lightness, and the sense of self that feels authentic and true. Take it one step at a time. You are breaking cycles, rewriting patterns, and reclaiming your story. And while it may feel heavy right now, you are creating a life that will feel lighter and more aligned with who you truly are. You’ve already shown so much courage to get here. Keep going—you are not alone.

Use this curated series for those times when you might need a reset, a reframe, or some tender love and care. You can come back here whenever you need to pause, zoom out, reflect, connect, and honor the brave work you’ve been doing. It’s time to give yourself some credit and community care. My hope is that this can become a space where we connect, support each other, and have valuable discussions with those walking a similar path. Connection is so important when we start to break cycles, untether from old stories, and rewrite new ones.

You should be so proud of the courageous decisions you’ve made to break free from harmful cycles—whether they show up in your family, relationships, workplace, or within yourself. For me, this has meant going no contact with certain family members, setting boundaries with people who once benefited from my people-pleasing, and leaving behind a version of myself that felt small and unheard. The process of stepping into your truth is a radical act of self-love, and it’s deserving of care and nourishment.

This care package is designed to meet you where you are. Each part of this series includes a ritual practice—a meditation, hypnosis, or EFT tapping—paired with journal prompts to guide your reflections. These practices are here to help you tune into your needs, acknowledge your growth, and create space for rest and renewal.

Through therapy, I’ve learned that being a black sheep, a scapegoat, and a cycle breaker is a lonely path, but it’s one that so many of us walk. I wish I had resources like this care package when I was navigating the darkest moments—something to remind me that I wasn’t alone and to validate the courage it takes to choose differently. My hope is that this offering becomes that source of comfort and encouragement for you.

Why This Care Package Matters

• Reconnect to Your Body: Ground yourself through guided practices that help you feel safe and present.

• Calm Your Nervous System: Ease the overwhelm with tools designed to regulate and soothe.

• Refuel Your Spirit: Create space for joy, rest, and reflection so you can keep moving forward with intention.

What’s Inside

Each post in this series includes:

• A guided ritual practice (meditation, hypnosis, or EFT tapping) to help you process and release.

• Journal prompts tailored to your growth and healing journey.

• Gentle reminders that you’re not alone in this work.
  

Approach this care package with an open heart, knowing you deserve profound love, safety, and all that is good and tender in the world. Let this be a moment to celebrate the remarkable person you are becoming—not despite the challenges, but because of the courage you’ve shown in facing them.

Share Your Intention

I’d love to hear from you: What intention are you setting for yourself as you begin this series? Or, if it feels right, share a bit about the cycle you’re working to break—a habit, pattern, or belief you’re ready to let go of. Let’s celebrate each other’s courage and commitment to growth in the comments below.